Posts Tagged ‘escape’

Debt and Addiction

Sunday, January 31st, 2010

Being in debt can be very stressful.  Always having to worry about how we are going to pay the bills is not pleasant.  The reason we are in debt (such as unemployment or too much use of credit cards, for example) is not so much the issue.

The issue, the problem, is the debt itself.  The stress that comes when we realize what we owe and that we are unable or will have great difficulty paying it.  This stress can frequently lead to substance use or abuse.  This may be an unconscious attempt to forget about the problem.  But the problem still exists when we “come down”  from the high.

An attempt to escape is not the solution.  It is necessary to deal with the problem, the debt, however unpleasant that may be.  Unless and until we are willing to deal with the problems in our lives (debt or other) the stress remains, and the likelihood that we will use addiction, act in an addictive manner, increases.

Death and Addiction

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

It is not at all pleasant when a friend passes away.  It does not matter how long the person had been ill, how well “prepared” we might be for the death.  It is, nevertheless, stressful.

What then becomes a crucial is how we cope with an issue, such as loss.  Whenever someone close passes away, there is a loss;  there is a vacant space in your mind, your heart.

We can cope with the death, the loss, in one of two ways.  One way is to face the loss, and deal with it.  This is the preferred method, and there are five basic stages to it:  denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  This is a process, and the length of time it takes varies with the individual involved.

Or, we can choose to avoid dealing with the issue, the loss, attempt to escape from something we might perceive as unpleasant.  This is what is done by the dry drunk.  It involves the use of some addictive behavior.  An attempt is made to fill the void left by the loss, the death, with the behavior(s), instead of facing the reality of what has occurred, no matter how unpleasant that reality may be.