Posts Tagged ‘excuses’

Vacations and Addiction

Thursday, December 31st, 2009

Taking a vacation is (hopefully) an enjoyable experience.  It can also be a stressful one.  Just as unpleasant or unfortunate events can cause us stress, so can the pleasant ones, like a vacation.  I have heard people say they
thoroughly enjoyed the vacation but are glad it is over, because always having to be “on” for friends and/or relatives is tiring and stressful.

There are times when not being able to deal with this stress, or the people that “cause” it, can result in our turning to addictive behaviors as a method of coping with the stress.  And it is not always the stress.  Sometimes
people feel that they deserve it, that they now have the right to engage in the chosen addictive behavior.  It may that we cannot cope with the situation, or that we make excuses.  Either way, we turn to addictive behavior.  We become and act like a dry drunk.

We may feel we need a break, that we need a vacation.  So we take a vacation.  That is fine.  That does not mean that addictive behaviors, that acting as a dry drunk, need be part of that break or vacation.  Nor does it mean that we need to make excuses.

We need to learn to learn the coping skills that will enable us to better deal with the expected, the unexpected, the pleasant, and the unpleasant.

We have all had to deal with the good and the bad.  That is life.  We need to learn to deal with those things in a manner that is not detrimental to ourselves or to others.